Proactive and Resourceful Coaching
In Personal Life Coaching is based on the belief that the client is both creative and resourceful, and able to come up with their own answers. In saying this, that relies on the coach being curious and asking questions. A personal life coach asks questions that are provocative, open-ended, and invite further discussion.
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The questions invite clients to look in a certain direction but the invitation has no preconceived conclusion. This is important - it's not as though the coach is asking questions with a particular narrative process in mind. The direction that the client's answers lead do not preclude any alternative - it is genuinely open ended.
These are not leading questions. And coaches are not at all attached to the answer they receive, or the direction the conversation goes. Clients will know the direction they want the conversation to lead, and an observant coach will see that it was a dead-end, and ask a different question. Curiosity is a an aware, playful state, full of wonder, exploring boundaries and pushing up against the unknown.
Curiosity and Wonder
“I wonder what you want?” “I wonder what your life would be like if you could design it to be any way you like?” “I wonder what you are deeply committed to?” “I wonder what’s holding you back?”
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Curiosity tends to lower the risk and eliminate the stifling quality of potential judgment. It’s no big deal to look in a curious way. We’re just being curious. And yet, curiosity is enormously powerful because it is so open to be surprised and perhaps find the unexpected truth.
Safe and Courageous
The space that is created for coaching needs to be safe. In this space, clients will be working on their very lives. It is likely to be a place where they face their Saboteurs and other snares; they may have to face dark corners. This is the heart of a brilliant Life Coach Newcastle. They will need to take risks in order to grow and make changes. As a coach, you can’t promise that this space will be comfortable but you play an important role in making sure it is safe enough.
The space must also be filled with courage: the client’s courage to step boldly into their lives — sometimes when they’re not all that sure what it is they’re stepping into — and the coach’s courage on the client’s behalf: believing that the client is capable, strong, and enough. The championing that the coach provides is like a shield for meeting challenging people in life.
Confidentiality and Trust
One of these is confidentiality. Clients need to know that what is said in their coaching calls will be held confidential. It is essential to the trust that is necessary in order for clients to open up their lives to coaching. This fundamental ground rule of confidentiality needs to be present and promised very early in the relationship — certainly, during the discovery session.
Truth and Authenticity
Telling the truth is another of those fundamental ground rules of coaching; it is essential to building trust and building a relationship strong enough to do the necessary life changing work. Clients expect the coach to speak the truth and not hold back.
Coaches model truth telling as the means for growth. On the contrary, faking it, stepping over issues, playing “nice” when it’s time to tell the hard truth — none of those strategies will serve the client in the long term. Remember authenticity and alignment.
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